S11.14 | Living From Wholeness, Not For It
Are you exhausted from trying to fix yourself? So many Christian women on the healing journey are striving for wholeness—believing peace will finally come once they “get it all together.” But what if you could live from wholeness instead of constantly working for it?
In this episode of Affirming Truths, Christian Mental Health Coach Carla Arges shares how healing becomes lighter when we stop chasing worth and start living from our identity in Christ. Drawing from Colossians 2:10 and Ephesians 2:10, Carla shows that wholeness isn’t something you have to earn—it's already yours through Jesus.
If you’re tired of performing for peace, this episode will help you find rest for your soul and confidence in who God says you already are.
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3 Key Takeaways from This Episode
You Don’t Heal to Be Whole—You Heal Because You Are Whole.
Wholeness isn’t a finish line; it’s your starting point in Christ. Healing is the process of remembering what’s already true about you.Striving Creates Exhaustion; Abiding Creates Peace.
Living for wholeness leads to burnout and shame. Living from wholeness invites you to rest in grace, trusting that God is already at work in you.Transformation Comes From Renewal, Not Pressure.
As you renew your mind daily (Romans 12:2), you rewire the patterns of striving and step into the freedom Jesus purchased for you.
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Summary
Journey to Healing and Wholeness
Carla discussed the concept of healing and wholeness, emphasizing that healing is a journey towards wholeness rather than a state achieved through striving. She shared her personal reflections and experiences, highlighting that many trauma survivors often fall into cycles of striving for perfection and productivity to prove their worth, which can lead to emotional exhaustion and shame. Carla used the story of the woman with the blood issue from Mark 5 to illustrate that healing comes from an encounter with Christ, not from personal effort, and that our identity is already established in Christ, allowing us to live from wholeness rather than strive for it.
Living from Wholeness in Christ
Carla discussed the difference between striving for wholeness and living from wholeness, emphasizing that living from wholeness comes from a place of already being complete in Christ, rather than trying to earn worthiness. She explained that while healing is a journey, it's important to start each day rooted in one's identity in Christ and to celebrate progress, not perfection. Carla encouraged listeners to practice gratitude, take thoughts captive, and live from their true identity in Christ, rather than striving to prove themselves.