S7 Bonus 5 | What You Say Shapes Your Life. How Are You Speaking?
There is power in the spoken word. Yet so many of us are regularly confessing lies over ourselves. “I can’t do this” “Bad things always happen to me” “I always fail at this”, etc.
Our brains have a need to be in agreement with what we say. How are you training your brain - and therefore your actions - to respond based on what you say?
Setting the Tone:
Your words matter more than you think.
Reflect on the influence of your spoken words on your life.
The Power of Words:
Understand that your brain seeks agreement with what you speak as truth.
Declarations of inconsistency sabotage success. Reframe language to empower.
Shifting Beliefs:
Action: Challenge negative beliefs with evidence of capability.
Encouragement: Start telling your brain, "I am capable of consistency."
Biblical Perspective:
God emphasizes taking thoughts captive and renewing minds.
The battle is in the mind; choose words aligned with God's truth.
Affirmations and Declarations:
Change language from "I can't" to "I am capable."
Challenge: Catch yourself in negative thoughts and rephrase with truth.
Life-Changing Impact:
Your words construct your life; change them to change your life.
Encouragement: Speak truth, catch lies, and watch how your life transforms.
Call to Action:
Challenge: Become hyper-aware of your words this week.
Instruction: Align your speech with the truth of God's word for transformative results.
Key Scripture:
Philippians 4:13: "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."
Romans 8:37: "I am more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus."
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[00:00:00] Carla: Hey friends, welcome to Affirming Truths. I'm your friend and host, Karla Arges. This show is a safe place to share our struggles, grow in faith, and root our identity in Christ. My hope is that you will leave each episode feeling encouraged in your journey. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode, and it would mean the world to me if you would leave a review.
[00:00:30] Carla: I am so glad you're here. Let's get started.
[00:00:37] Carla: Hello friends! Welcome to this bonus episode of Affirming Truth. I am your host, Karla Arges, and I am excited to talk to you about something today. Excited because I have felt extra passionate about it this week. It is something that has emerged with two of my clients this week that we've had to talk through, something that I've [00:01:00] had to mentor my mom through.
[00:01:03] Carla: And I want to talk about the words that we use, the words that we use, and how what we speak out Is actually very influential in our life for our good or for our detriment. Um, both of my clients this week said something along the lines of, I'm not a consistent person. I can't be consistent in this. And while I'm not going to talk to you about tips of being consistent in this episode, I want to use this as an example to show you how the power of words can sabotage your success.
[00:01:48] Carla: They both were making statements that they were not consistent people. Here's what happens when we make statements like that. When we make statements of, I [00:02:00] can't do this. This is too hard for me. I always fail. I'm never good enough. Whatever we say, why do bad things always happen to me? Whatever it is.
[00:02:13] Carla: When we say these things, our brain takes it as fact. And then our brain wants to be in agreement with fact. Our brain wants to be in agreement with what we've spoken out as truth. So you know what happens if you struggle with consistency in an area that's hard for you and you have moments of consistent action, your brain is going to be like, wait a second, I'm not a consistent person.
[00:02:46] Carla: And you will sabotage yourself. If you say all the time, bad things always happen to me and something good happens, your brain will disregard it and hyper focus on [00:03:00] something negative because it wants to be in agreement with your statement that only bad things happen to you. If you say, I can't do something and you start to try.
[00:03:12] Carla: Your brain's going to be like, no, you can't do this and it's going to sabotage you. Your brain wants to be in agreement with what you profess as truth. The problem is so many of us are not professing truth. We're professing lies. We're professing lies. And here's what I told my two clients this week that were struggling with consistency.
[00:03:40] Carla: It may be true that you have a history of struggling with consistency, but the truth that I want you to focus on is that you are capable of consistency. Let's start telling our brain, I'm capable of consistency. Let's get our brain in [00:04:00] agreement with that. Because there's truth in that you're capable of consistency and I had them look for evidence.
[00:04:08] Carla: Do you not brush your teeth every day? They both have pets. Don't you feed your animal every day? It's still alive. You must. Don't you shower regularly? Whatever your regular schedule is like, you are capable of consistency. You have it in other areas of your life. That is evidence that you are capable of building consistency in this new hard habit you're trying to form.
[00:04:31] Carla: Or your words matter instead of I'm never consistent at this saying, I am capable of consistency and approaching it that way. Your brain is going to look for evidence and get an agreement that you're capable, right? When you start saying, I am more than a conqueror in Christ Jesus, instead of I'm always a failure.[00:05:00]
[00:05:00] Carla: I can't get out of this depression. My, my life is misery. When you start to declare, no, I'm more than a conqueror in Christ Jesus, your brain is going to want to get into alignment with that. This This This is science. This is psychology. And this is why God has emphasized to the church to take our thoughts captive, to renew our minds, to put on the helmet of salvation.
[00:05:33] Carla: Because God knows, walking out the Christian life, our biggest stumbling block Is in our own minds, the battle is in the mind. What we speak out starts as a thought. And that thought actually starts as a core belief. So many of you have believed lies. You're not even aware of it. So many people are [00:06:00] not aware of the language that they use and how the language that they're using is setting them up for failure.
[00:06:08] Carla: Your words matter. It's the difference between living an overcoming life or an overwhelmed life. Your words matter. It's the difference between thriving in joy and merely surviving in misery. Your words matter. Your words matter. God spoke the word. God spoke the world into existence. He could have created with a thought.
[00:06:39] Carla: He could have created with a snap of the finger. He chose to speak the word into existence. You know what our only offensive weapon is in the armor of God, the sword of the spirit, which is the word of God, the word speaking the [00:07:00] scripture. That is our offensive weapon. When Jesus was tempted in the wilderness with Satan.
[00:07:07] Carla: He's Jesus. He could have defeated Satan in any number of ways. Instead, he spoke the truth of the word. What you speak over yourself, what you speak over your children, what you speak over your household has impact and influence. There is power in the spoken word. What are you speaking? You have to start changing your language.
[00:07:39] Carla: You have to start challenging your thoughts and your beliefs. This makes a huge shift. If you battle with your mental health, I want you to look at the language that you use. Spoken. What do you confess? As truth [00:08:00] through your spoken word, what thoughts do you allow to ruminate in your head? What beliefs are you acting out on?
[00:08:13] Carla: Now, you may say that you believe Jesus loves you, but is that really a rooted belief? You may say, I have a hope in a future, but is that really a rooted belief? Because if it was really a rooted belief, you would be standing firm against thoughts that. spoke otherwise, and the language of your mouth, what poured out of your mouth, would be in alignment with that belief.
[00:08:47] Carla: What you say matters. You've got to stop with the, the, I can'ts. You've got to stop with, it's too hard. You've got to stop with, I'm not able. [00:09:00] You've got to stop with the, I'm so overwhelmed. Not that we don't acknowledge that, but we can say it in a different way. Wow, there's a lot on my plate right now that is tempting me to overwhelm, but I know I'm an overcomer, so I'm going to break down this overwhelm.
[00:09:23] Carla: What you say matters, your brain wants to agree with your words, and it will filter information to be in alignment with what you say.
[00:09:37] Carla: Are you listening? Are you getting this? Are you really getting this in your heart and in your mind? I want you guys this next week to become hyper aware of what you say and challenge it. Catch yourself in the moment and say, Whoa, that is not truth. [00:10:00] I do not want to be in agreement with that. I do not want to be in agreement with that.
[00:10:06] Carla: I am in agreement with the truth of the word that says I am beloved, that I can do all things, that I'm more than a conqueror. I'm going to align my brain and my thoughts and my beliefs and my speech with the truth of the word. And I'm going to speak that out. And I'm going to confess that and watch how my life.
[00:10:29] Carla: Changes. Much of how we live our life is the construction of our words and what we've built up around us. Situations can be the exact same, but how someone lives through them is defined by what they speak out and what they think. You want to change your life? Change your words. Change your words. And if you need help with that, This is what I [00:11:00] do.
[00:11:00] Carla: I'm a Christian mental health and life coach. This is what I walk people through. Life changing. Behaviors. Friends, your words matter. Your brain is listening. Start to speak truth and catch yourself in those lies. I'll talk to you next time.
[00:11:29] Carla: Thanks for joining me today. I hope we're already friends on social media, but if we're not, come find me on Instagram at Carla Arges or at Affirming Truths. Can't wait to see you back here next week. Bye, friends.